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Progressive
parents have done it again. They've unleashed their progeny on us. The
breezy bubbleheads that gave us the prototype schoolyard mass murderer,
whose petulance and sense of entitlement led him to pump his peers with
lead, the same sort of loopy parents have again handed us their life's
work - a son who joined the Taliban.
I speak of
the parents of John Walker, alias Abdul Hamid. The wounded 20-year-old
American was picked up by U.S. Special Forces in Afghanistan. Walker was
a combatant, fighting for the Taliban; although, to listen to his dad
Frank Lindh, you get the impression that Walker is nothing but a sweet
kid, returned from a summer camp gone terribly wrong.
As gleaned
from a typical Larry King stump interview, the boy's ordeal was the end
stage, the culmination of a process that was indulged, even facilitated,
by the parents. Incidentally, if Larry King found the unflappable
father's narrative bizarre or in anyway jarring, he was not letting on.
But it is arguable whether Larry King is indeed truly alive. In any
case, it is instructive to trace the warp and woof of a permissive
upbringing.
Walker had
converted to Islam when he was 16. The dropout who was named for John
Lennon was not content with confining himself to a mosque in San
Francisco or merely practicing the rituals of Islam. With the
"blessings" of his Catholic father and Buddhist mother, he
traveled to Yemen to study Arabic.
At this
stage, no bells went off for Mr. and Mrs. Bozo. They were wholly
supportive of Abdul's "spiritual quest," allowing the boy to
journey to Pakistan for, ostensibly, Islamic scholarly pursuit.
"Other
than a kid who ... had converted to a religion that" dad respected,
"and that seemed very healthy and good for him," Mr. Lindh
seemingly saw no reason to exercise parental propriety. Dodo dad
concedes that he would like right now to give sonny boy "a little
kick in the butt for not telling" him "what he was up
to." A bit late for that, dad.
Surprisingly,
the beatific Frank Lindh was not clutching a pseudo-parchment of Kahlil
Gibran's "The Prophet," as he spoke to King. Lindh's ideas
about parenting echo the silly riffs delivered in this obscure text;
words that became - and seemingly still are - a catechism for the
progressive parent and his hip children:
Your children
are not your children.
They are the
sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come
through you but not from you,
And though
they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give
them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have
their own thoughts.
The
questionable wisdom of the child-centered school of parenting lingers in
every cultural crevice: The public - and private - schools, the mental
health expert's rooms, and the media. Accordingly, formative figures are
no more than facilitators, catalysts for "growth," blah, blah.
A hangover from Rousseau's noble savage concept animates a vision of the
child as a primordial, naturally-good being, and a spontaneous learner.
If left to his own devices, and if allowed freedom from adult poisoning
- the child will interact with his environment, and in time glean the
necessary moral and intellectual lessons. Unconditional love is his only
requirement.
The
self-esteem talisman is another creation of the progressive parent and
pedagogue. Every child, irrespective of his qualities and abilities,
must be helped to develop a self-esteem that borders on the gargantuan.
There is a price to pay for encouraging in kids a Nietzchean celebration
of self. We now know that inflated self-esteem, the kind that is frankly
endemic among Americans, is associated with the psychopathic behavior we
have come to see erupt regularly in schools and other arenas.
Then there is
the exculpatory "It Takes a Village" wisdom. The official
literati and assorted "progressives" have collectivized the
responsibility for "Our Children," to use Hillary Clinton's
confiscatory term. Consequently, parents behave as if Taliban toddlers
or schoolyard murderers just land on you, courtesy of some amorphous
social force.
Predictably,
Walker's father deflects from his role in his son's downfall. Hinting
that the young man was brainwashed or that he was non compos mentis, Mr.
Lindh ventured that Abdul, alias John, should be "debriefed by the
government," and then sent home.
Shirking
responsibility for laissez-faire parenting is one thing, but attempting
to shield the young man from facing the consequences of his choices is
quite another. Walker's actions were premeditated and volitional. While
we are certainly shaped by an upbringing - we are not determined by it.
The ability to exercise a measure of free will in practically every
contingency in life is what separates human beings from animals, whose
actions are instinctive.
John or Abdul
made his choices. He must pay the price. Hopefully, moral communities
will also find a way to hold accountable parents who spawn such feral
creatures and unleash them to their midst.
To sum, if
your kid comes home with a cap, a Koran, and a prayer mat tucked under
his arm, don't pal around. Thank your lucky charms it isn't a broomstick
and a Wicca wand that the youngster yearns for, but drop the ever-so-mod
habit of paraphrasing the child's every utterance and quit extending him
assorted Socratic invitations to respond.
Tell the
adored personage that, in my case, "we are Westerners, Jewish, to
be precise. So long as you live on mommy's property, you will respect
this fact. No, you cannot worship at a nearby mosque, and no, so long as
I pay your way, the University of Medina is not going to be your alma
mater." You explain to your cherub that it is natural for
impressionable youth to romanticize unknown beliefs. You tell her that
because of her youth, this temporary infatuation may lead her down a
dangerous path, and that it is your duty as a parent to guide her.
At all times
keep a firm grip on reality.
Despite
President Bush's assurances, I've been disabused of any notion that the
practitioners of Islam are of a peaceful disposition. The sample of
Muslims, religious leaders included, that is engaging in barbaric
flummery is simply too large and too representative to be coincidental.
Heck, look at Yusuf Islam, formerly a peaceful lyricist who went by the
name of Cat Stevens. Stevens gave up his career to serve the prophet
Muhammad. Soon after his "peaceful" metamorphosis, we find Mr.
Islam giving the thumbs up to Ayatollah Khomeini for issuing a fatwa
against Salman Rushdie, author of "Satanic Verses." OK,
turncoat Cat now occupies himself harmlessly by composing "A's for
Allah" tunes for kiddies. Still, calling for the head of an author
for offending Islam is not very nice, nor peaceful.
The letter
and spirit of Islam evades us: Some scholars vouch for the faith's
peacefulness; others controvert it. Mindful of this, parents should
avoid blessing a sudden run by a son on the Islamic seminary or
extracurricular trips to view the stalactites and stalagmites of the
Afghan caves. Safer to stick with Sunday or Hebrew school.
©2001 By
Ilana Mercer
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