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The anatomy of
violence in schools runs like this: First, a loser, who enjoys all the trappings
of middle class life—including parental unconditional approval—and who has no
predilection for self denial or control, decides to expand his sphere of misery.
The latest prototype in Canada was an infelicitous 15-year-old boy, referred to
occasionally as "Felicity," from Orleans, Ontario, who went darting about Cairine Wilson High, plunging a knife into fellow students.
Next, as was the case
in the Columbine affair and in other incidents around the US, his compatriots,
the children, commence the ritualistic, exculpatory rhetoric, taught to them by
progressive educators and liberal parents. As one automaton said: "He was poked
at and made fun of-the kids in Columbine felt neglected until their deaths." In
a word, the perpetrator, who suffered from acne, buckled under the psychic pain
of overactive sebaceous glands.
It's time for the
pop-psychology explanations of how an essentially tender soul was pushed to
attempt murder. When the mental health mavens appear on the scene, the narrative
expands some, but generally retains its idiotic thrust. Having been played for
all it's worth, the-culture-of-violence causal factor has given way to the more
in-vogue bullying theory.
Skin-deep qualities
have always determined the pecking order in schools. Still, Janis-Ian's
haunting, 1975 song, "Seventeen," would not have been written today. Angry teenagers
nowadays are simply less inclined to ruminate about their angst, and more likely
to act on it. Social justice, they are taught, pivots on redistribution. And
redistribution is achieved by making some pay for the lesser fortunes of others.
When taught to reject the harsh reality of inequality, of not having everything
one covets—the anger of entitlement easily bubbles to the fore. Be it popularity
or pulchritude, there is a sense that, someone ought to pay for the pain of
being without.
Furthermore, where
once kids might have seen dignity in a brave and stoic face, now, the cultural
cognoscenti have declared these to be pathologies, symptoms of repression and
denial. Is it any wonder that some kids—the bad ones, at least—feel that the
culture of share-your-feelings-with-the-group gives them permission
to take the rage of entitlement to its deadly conclusion?
Having turned the
perpetrator into a cause celebre, society exonerates the youth and his parents
from responsibility. As Hillary Clinton said, "It Takes A Village," and we must
all share the blame. Replacing individual with collective responsibility is
vital in the grand scheme of things, because blaming everyone is like blaming no
one: "Let my kid and me off the hook, and when the time comes for your kid to
stray, we will respond in kind."
By incorporating
rather than expunging the offender from its moral midst, the community further
blurs the lines between innocent and guilty, good and bad. This fudging serves
to suspend these occurrences in an ethical limbo and make them sufficiently
ambiguous to the future offender.
The cry then goes out
for more focus groups to educate about bullying and to plump fragile egos. The
major domos know not of the research that indicates "aggression is more
frequently associated with positive self appraisals than with low self esteem."
In her 1997 monograph on post traumatic stress disorder, Professor Marilyn
Bowman points out that, while "every kind of social problem is analyzed as the
outgrowth of low self esteem," and while "treatment programs to teach people how
to love themselves are put forward as the means of raising self-esteem," not
only is "the relationship between emotion and well being not robust, causal or
meaningful," but, on the contrary, there is a dark side to self-esteem. "The
prototype aggressor," explains Bowman, "is a man whose self-appraisal is
unrealistically positive." Like all efforts to drum up ignorance, this one can
be dangerous.
Finally, in order to
sustain this self-reverential and self-referential world, and to ensure that, in
the words of Allan Bloom, the only enemy that remains is "the man who is not
open to everything," the communal will makes one last paroxysmal gesture. Said a
pastor on the stabbing scene: "You've got to totally accept him, totally forgive
him." As in Columbine and Taber before it, a community now prepares to bestow
instant forgiveness. People can now begin to speak of being on the mend.
Everyone "moves on," until the next time, that is.
©2000 Ilana Mercer
A version of this
article was published in The Calgary Herald
April 27
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